The Friend You Need to Be First

We often go looking for the kind of friend we have not yet learned to be. Loyal. Patient. Curious. Willing to show up without keeping score.

Before complaining about the friends you do not have, ask whether you are the kind of person you would want to spend an evening with. The answer is rarely flattering, and it is always useful.

Become that person, even imperfectly. Like always finds like, given enough time.